Wednesday, September 30, 2026

Life-Changing

Red White (1962)
Ellsworth Kelly (1923 – 2015)
"Viv decided her favorite was a piece called Red White with a single bright red shape on a white background. When Charlotte asked what she liked about it, Viv shrugged and said, 'Well, I've always liked red. And that thing in the middle reminds me of a pair of red shorts Vince had when he was little. He always looked so cute in them . . .' "
from The Book Club for Troublesome Women
by Marie Bostwick

This novel is about a small group of women who get together in 1963 to read the recently published Feminine Mystique by Betty Friedan (1921 – 2006). In creating this ficitonal group, Bostwick looks back to the experience of her own family:
"This book is dedicated to the original Margaret, my Margaret, my mother, who inspired this journey by her example and with these words: 'I don't know if I ever told you but that book changed my life.' "
"Changed my life." Intriguing words! I myself have said the same about a few authors: Marilyn French, Leonard Shlain, and David Shields (see QK & FN). Somehow my coming of age included The Female Eunuch but not The Feminine Mystique. Therefore, I number myself among those who are grateful to Bostwick for inspiring us to refresh our understanding of Betty Friedan's manifesto.

For Bostwick's four "Troublesome Women," it was Friedan who opened their eyes. In her honor, they call themselves "The Bettys" -- that's how deeply moved they are by Friedan's imperatives for claiming greater autonomy, in their home life and at work. They rally around each other in the quest for meaningful careers: Margaret as a writer, Viv as a nurse, Bitsy as an equestrian, and Charlotte as an artist.

One of my favorite chapters is their outing to the Washington Gallery of Modern Art (sadly no longer in operation). Luckily, it was flourishing in 1963, when Charlotte decides to lead The Bettys in a one - day immersion experience. As she explains to the others:
"The point is less what you think it looks like than how it makes you feel. Good art, the best art, elicits a reaction of some sort, not always a positive one. It might make you feel peaceful or joyful or curious. But it could also make you feel angry or ashamed or afraid. The response will vary from person to person. But if the piece evokes something genuine, even raw it has fulfilled its purpose."


"Margaret was attracted to two works by Jasper Johns [b 1930]. The first titled Map [1961] and painted with broad, seemingly hurried brushstrokes of blue, red, yellow, and orange, bore a rough resemblance to a map of the United States, but with the borders blurred and overlapping.

"The second False Start [1959], with chaotic, sharp-edged splotches of blue, red, yellow, gray, white, and orange, also had words for the colors teenciled atop the splotches but almost never in the same color as the word. Margaret wasn't sure what all that meant, but she liked the bright, happy colors. Though she wouldn't have said so for fear of offending Charlotte, she really did find them somewhat childlike--but that was what she liked most about them. There was a playfulness to them, the sort of unbridled enthusiasm that usually fades with age or becomes buried by disappointments.


"Bitsy's appreciation of Johns was more nuanced.

"He's a trickster, trying to confuse our brains by painting the word in a different color, forcing us to look twice to make sure we got it right. Or a joker, she said, leaning closer to study the canvas, a naughty boy who scribbles on walls because he knows he can get away with it. Or maybe a philosopher? Challenging us to confront the fact that borders are just arbitrary lines marked out by somebody who woke up one day and decided to put them there. Or possibly all three. Hard to say."
(all passages, 87 - 89)
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Here's one more, not mentioned in the novel,
but similar style: Alphabet (1959)
Shared on QK

Monday, August 31, 2026

Summer Gift Ideas

The cover alone makes this book a great gift!
It is the perfect metaphor: the elegant tea scene,
the tea going all over the table. A short, sweet novel
about finally growing up, turning away from the past,
and giving birth to one’s self.
Also, some clever allusions to The Wizard of Oz.
~ 2004 ~

Both of these novels go back
a couple of decades, but still fun.

The title itself is truly inspired,
no matter how you feel about the rest of the story!
If an authentic sense of well being remains elusive,
then surely a false sense would make a perfect present!
~ 2001 ~

For something more current
The Correspondent
by Virginia Evans:
Totally on trend as a book club selection, this would make a great present. So go ahead and surprise your friends with their own personal copy so they can remove their names from the library waitlist.
Favorite line
“I know you think of me as your mother only,
but please remember, inside I am also just a girl
.” (242)

Correspondent Reading Guides
Book List & Character List

Also currently trending
to go along with summer blockbuster movie

Gotta catch 'em all
~ Thursday Murder Club ~ 1 - 5
A little on the silly side but well-written and quirky.
A boxed set always makes a nice gift!
Favorite lines from Richard Osman.

On the light-hearted side
(but meaningful)
Gerry & I enjoy all the poetry of Brian Bilston.

An American Classic
that I’ve been meaning to read forever.
Thanks Ray Bradbury!
Love this cover of Dandelion Wine!

One of my favorite books
“of all time” (pun intended, but also true).
The perfect existentialist present!
I have given Einstein's Dreams as a gift to many people,
including my sons Ben and Sam, a few Christmases back.
Sam started reading his a month or so ago,
and we have been texting back and forth
all summer with our favorite passages.

I’ve tried a couple of other Alan Lightman books,
but none of them give me goosebumps like this one does!
So many good passages. Deep and startling; also sad.

See also Saving Time & Spring ~ Time
Midnight & 2007

Tuesday, July 7, 2026

Summer Sleuthing

"When I'm rich, my mother'll have a garden and a gardener . . .
And we'll have champagne every evening when she's tired . . .
champagne and a gardener!
" (71)

Though I'm not typically a reader of whodunits, these entertaining novels have changed my mind this summer, with their sly wit, droll quips, clever allusions, and existential humor.

Some examples from
B. J. Morison's
Champagne and a Gardener

" . . . Pherousa led a simple existence. . . .
Pherousa, sixteen, was allowed to read fiction
if it had a nautical setting.
" (25)

"After the usual interlude, passengers began to appear,
with the stunned and / or exalted expression
common to disembarking air travellers.
" (58)

After hearing several people
refer to someone as “Cousin Cordelia,”
Elizabeth asks:
“Is that lady everybody’s cousin?”
To which Hill replies:

“Well no. Actually her father and Mrs. Worthington
were the children of first cousins. Mrs. Woodhue
is only my wife’s third cousin,
but in Boston they cling to their cousins.
Everybody must have something.”


One of "Poor Cordelia's" hardships:
she has come into some money, but her
husband Ted is spending her capital:
" 'Spend her capital!' echoed Persis, in horror. She may not have the had the exotic worldly thrills that Elizabeth Lamb had experienced, but almost eight years of life spent in the vicinity of Boston had taught her what was the unforgiveable worldy sin." (67)
Additional
Little Maine Murders

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And further adventures of
The Thursday Murder Club
by Richard Osman
[Click for previously posted lines from #1 & gift - giving idea]

The Man Who Died Twice
#2 in Osman's Thursday Murder Series

A poignant exchange with Donna,
after Ibrahim is assaulted during a street robbery:

Donna asks, "How's the pain?"
"'It's getting better,' says Ibrahim.
"It only really hurts if I breathe.'"


He then encourages Donna
to discuss her ongoing sense of loneliness:
"'Does it hurt?' asks Ibrahim.
'Only when I breathe,' says Donna.
(295, 296)
"All is quiet in this happy place. Another day done, family safe and sound, curtains closed and heating on. Nothing you'll ever see on the news, but something you should really pay more attention to, just the gentle hum of contentment." (394)


Ibrahim: "The secret of life is death. Everything is about death, you see. In essence . . . Our existence only makes sense because of it; it provides meaning to our narrative. Our direction of travel is always towards it. Our behaviour is either because we fear it, or because we choose to deny it. We could drive past this spot once a year, every year, and neither the horse nor ourselves would get younger. Everything is death."

Joyce: "That's one way of looking at things, I suppose."

Ibrahim: "It's the only way." (406 - 07)

Along the same lines as Ibrahim's view of death:
The Thing About Life Is That One Day You'll Be Dead
QK, FN, KL

And this seasonal gem:
"It is another glorious autumn day,
but there is a bite in the air
that tells you there won't be too many left.
Winter is waiting impatiently round the corner.
" (22)

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The Bullet That Missed
#3 in Osman's Thursday Murder Series
Ibrahim gets some of the deepest lines, perhaps because he is the most like Osman himself. In this insightful exchange, the criminal Connie considers hiring Ibrahim as her psychiatrist:
Ibrahim: "I always start with one question. Are you happy?"

Connie: "Well, I'm in prison."

I: "But that aside?"

C: "I mean. Maybe I could be happier?
You know, five percent. I'm OK.
"

I: "I can help with that.
Five percent, ten, fifty, whatever it might be.
That's my job. I can't fix you,
but I can make you run a little better.
"

C: "You can't fix me?"

I: "Humans can’t be fixed.
We’re not lawnmowers. I wish we were.
"

C: "What do you charge?"

I: "Sixty pounds an hour."

C: "I'll pay you two hundred an hour."

I: "No, it's just the sixty.
And my schedule is pretty flexible
."

C: "Great. Let's do Thursdays."

I: "Actually, can we do Wednesdays?
Thursdays are the one day I have something on.
" (60 - 61)

Because there is no commitment more compelling
than The Thursday Murder Club!

And this should go for you too!
Happy summer reading and sleuthing!

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P.S.
Bogdan also imparts his share of worldly wisdom:

"Everyone wants to feel special,
but nobody wants to feel different
." (22)

P.P.S
Looking for another mystery series?
Try Quirke: KL & QK

Tuesday, June 16, 2026

Bloomsday

Check out this mystery
~ and review in The Guardian ~
for numerous fun allusions to James Joyce's Ulysses.
Quirke even sees a "lanky-looking galoot
in a gabardine raincoat
" (148).

[also on QK]


Happy Bloomsday
from James Joyce and Friends!
Herman Melville
Oscar Wilde
Edgar Allan Poe

All figures available from
The Christmas Company

Also Nativity

Sunday, May 31, 2026

Memoirs in May

Contemplating My Own Memoirs
"Go Away I'm Reading"

As you can imagine, I receive a lot of gifts
along these lines, and love them all:

"No Such Thing As Too Many Books"
1.
“Every connection has an obligation
even if the obligation is Joy — to cherish it
.”
(p 92)

From
Left on Tenth: A Second Chance at Life
Delia Ephron (b 1944)
[See also QK & KL]

2.
"We thought we were in the best place in the world in this neighborhood, in the all-Irish housing projects where everyone claimed to be Irish even if his name was Spinnoli. We were proud to be from here, as proud as we were to be Irish. . . . Southie was Boston's proud Irish neighborhood. . . .

"I always had a sense of security here, a sense of belonging that I've never felt anywhere else . . . a feeling that someone would watch your back. Sure, bad things happened to my family, and to so many of my neighbors and friends, but there was never a sense that we were victims. This place was ours, it was all we ever knew, and it was all ours. . . .

"That's how I found myself staring out at a sea of faces, looking for my brothers among the living and the dead. I was looking for the truth about their lives and about their deaths. Like me, everyone at that night's vigil will forever be looking for the truth in Southie, where nothing's what it seems."
(2, 5-6, 263)
From
All Souls: A Family Story from Southie
Michael Patrick MacDonald (b 1966)

3.
And I'm adding this one here,
because of the subtitle:

Heating and Cooling: 52 Micro-Memoirs
Beth Ann Fennelly (b 1971)

4.
"There was just Erica Jong, Feminist Icon,
except that she was really not that feminist,
and really not that iconic."
(216)

From
How to Lose Your Mother: A Daughter's Memoir
Molly Jong-Fast (b 1978)


Except -- could it be that Molly Jong-Fast (while being an otherwise thoughtful and perceptive daughter) and Jane Kamensky (no excuses for her) are underestimating the impact of Erica Jong's work?

I am thinking back to the letter that my sister Peg wrote to me years ago from Frankfurt:
March 17, 1981

Dear Kit,

Since receiving your letter, I've looked everywhere for a copy of Fear of Flying. Do you know that there is not a copy to be found. The library copy is checked out and the bookstore is sold out. I remember seeing several copies in the bookstore about three weeks ago, but now they're gone. So, I've put a reserve on the library copy. Judging from what you say and what I've heard about the book, I figure three are a lot of bored housewives using the book as an "entertainment guide" for Germany. I can hardly wait to read it.

I've not even read the book and I find myself being embarrassed when I ask for it. While at the library, I also requested Firestarter by Stephen King, and everything was normal enough, but I'm certain that when I uttered the first "F" of Fear of Flying, there was an echo that caused all heads to turn and look at me. I never thought of myself as a shy person, and I'm not a prude, but I think I was born too early in this sexual revolution."

Peg and I read Fear of Flying together back in the day, and when How to Lose Your Mother came along, we discussed the life lessons we have retained from Erica Jong's fiction. As a heroine, Isadora Wing may have been flighty (pun intended!), but it wasn't her crazy antics and sexual romp through Europe that left their mark on us so much as her determination to make her own way through a culture of double standards, mixed messages and false promises.

Sure, Jong's soft - core porn approach can be over the top at times yet easy enough to accomodate because she is also telling such a good story and imparting so much wisdom:

On femininity vs feminism
Don't you see that men have always defined
femininity as a means of keeping women in line?
(22)

On family
"It was the old psychosomatic side-step.
Everyone in my family dances it at every opportunity.
You've given me a splitting headache! You've given me indigestion!
You've given me crotch rot! You've given me auditory hallucinations!
You've given me a heart attack! You've given me cancer!
" (44)

On decision making
" . . . your life may not be simple.
Why do you expect it to be . . .
why do you have to throw everything away
before you give yourself time to decide?
Can't you wait and see what happens later?
" (171)

This one is from the sequel
to Fear of Flying

"Many people today believe that cynicism requires courage.
Actually, cynicism is the height of cowardice.
It is innocence and open-heartedness
that require the true courage —
however often we are hurt as a result of it
."
(How to Save Your Own Life, 77)

And so much more!

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As an inspiring feminist icon, Erica Jong
has a permanent spot on the sidebar of my daily blog,
along with other notables such as Margaret Atwood,
Virginia Woolf, King Solomon, and Sappho.

And she appears in many of my posts:
FN ~ KL ~ QK

Friday, April 10, 2026

April Foolery

On Facebook

Book Group
The last Thursday of every month was Book Group,
when the books would gather together to discuss Brian.

“It’s no fun here any more,” remarked Bleak House, glumly.
“Why doesn’t he read us?” whined the Grapes of Wrath. “It makes me so angry!”
“I’m sure he only bought me so he can show me off to his friends,”
complained Ulysses, in a stream of self-consciousness.

“I bet he can’t even remember my name, The Idiot,”
muttered a voice from the Russian literature section.
“That’s because he avoids you like The Plague,” said another.
“C’est vrai!” came a cry. “It is like I do not exist.”

“Let’s not give up on him yet.” It was Brave New World.
After some Persuasion, they agreed to give him one last chance.
“Be quiet!” cried Waiting for Godot with Great Expectations.
“Here he comes now!”

Brian entered the room, with his phone.
He sat down and watched some videos of baby pandas falling over.
After an hour or so, he started googling cats dressed as celebrities.

On the shelf, the books waited with uncracked spines,
their silence speaking volumes.
By Brian Bilston (b 1970)
More on KL & FN & QK & FB


Plus, something funny:
The Sex Lives of Cannibals:
Adrift in the Equatorial Pacific


And, something for
Shakespeare's Birthday

Tuesday, March 31, 2026

Book on Windowsill

Spring in Gościeradz (1933)
Leon Jan Wyczółkowski (1852 – 1936)
Leading Polish painter and educator

I love the way Wyczolkowski captures the ethereal
energy coming from book, curtain, tree, light!

And just what is that golden book upon the windowsill?
Could it be . . .

1.
The Unselected Journals of Emma M. Lion: Vol. 1

by Beth Brower
Recommended by my friend Lisa

Hilarious, in manner of Oscar Wilde's
Importance of Being Ernest.  Very droll!
Would make a better mini-series than Downton!

2.
August is a Wicked Month

by Edna O'Brien
Sent as a gift from my friend Vickie
While brooding about some ill-considered personal choices, the heroine repeats a mantra to herself . . .

173: "'It's not a crime, it's not a crime, it's not a crime,' she kept saying, arranging her footsteps to tune in with that one sentence. 'It's not a crime,' she said again . . . But even as she was saying it was not a crime she thought back to herself . . . the ivory girl in her tower of gold. Would they recognize her now?"

193: “She had not thought of him once. Not once. That was her crime. Under the soft skin and behind the big, melting eyes, her heart was like a nutmeg. Some of it had been grated by life but the very centre never really surrendered to anyone, not to the mother who stole for her, nor to the drunken father, nor to her far-seeing but poisoned husband, and not to the child in the way it should have.”
3.
Marriage and Other Monuments

by Virginia Pye
A must read for the local color of Richmond, Virginia,
written by one of my former Philadelphia neighbors
208 - 09: "Why are Black women always so angry at me? I haven't done anything to them."

"Jesus, Melissa, after all these years you don't get why someone might be less than friendly to you?

She shrugged. "I do, sort of, but come to think of it, no, not really."


220 - 21: "She [Cynthia] had left Bobby beause she was unwilling to be his helpmate, but maybe helping was an unavoidable part of the arrangement. Maybe marriage was a pact to keep each other afloat against all odds, natural and manmade. To ease the boat of life downstream through rough waters, including old age."
4.
The Hounding

by Xenobe Purvis
Sent as gift from my friend Laura
Here's what I noticed about this mysterious novel -- especially since I did not look ahead or read any reviews, not even the book jacket -- I honestly did not know and could not guess what was going to happen! Even up until the last page, I did not see it coming -- the murder, the reprieve, the escape.

I can see how some readers want a more detailed conclusion, but maybe it's better for the reader to wonder where the sisters are going and what will happen and whether or not there is a rational explanation. Personally, I want it to be a novel about imaginations running wild, completely unnecessarily.

I loved the thoughts of the grandfather about how strong and independent he wanted the girls to be.

~ Or these ~

5.

With commentary from from
my daughter - in - law Cathleen

6.
Sent as a gift from my friend Katie
[a bizarre connection!]

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Another painting of
window and book
The Young Cicero Reading
by Vincenzo Foppa (c.1427–c.1515)

Posted previously on The Ides of March